:: RAGGING :: The origin

What does ragging mean to u ?
Ragging........What picture does this word bring to ur mind ?? I'm not quite sure abt what its in your mind.Is it u being ragged or you ragging ! I bet its you being ragged....Well i just thought abt the ragging that i miss...Yes u heard it right,I MISS RAGGING....
Twas the month of june 2002...I was so proudly holding my class X marks sheet with an air of dignity in front of the principal's room of st.Thomas residential school tvm,one of the best schools of my tym.The principal talked to me as if i was an average student n he was scoffing at me on all points.Though i felt bad then,i realised later that an 89.83 % was a mere average in STRS.Back in st.Mary's , from where i came, i was sort of a hero...Mine was the record mark in the 25yr school history !! And the second rank stood 53marks behind me(thats a 9%)....Huh...My world was changing....It was june 14th,2002...My first day in hostel.Its not the first time i am being away from home..I'd been to 5day camps n even a month away from home during summer hols.And i thought its going to be ok.Just one thing was different here.I dint know anyone here....
For the first time i was going to have seniors....Those ppl whom my dad had given me a lot of info on(dad being in medical college seemed to know lot abt ragging)....So twas automatically imprinted in my mind that seniors were to be respected n interestingly i used to respect them...I still don know if twas out of fear or twas passive...But i did consider them as someone important in my life.I was pretty much amused to find lot of guys lik me standing in awe before seniors.Well we had a small introduction by the hostel warden at night around 8 and then he left by 9....And then the party started.....RAGGING.....Twas a scary situation.We were asked to stand in a row n lik picking a prostitute or something,a bunch of seniors would pick one of us and would disappear...Infact what was happening went in accordance to my dads description...Well The rule was simple as far as i was concerned.....Respect seniors....
A topic was seldom required to start the party.The diversity and the creativity that they displayed amused me ! Well i was caught on the grounds of having a moustache...And i had to shave it..I dint resist thou i hated to look the 'me without moustache'.I had really tough time to meet up new friends in a completely new school,but st.Thomas gifted me some really good ppl around,ah thats a diff story....Well back in hostel,i was the only one who chose STRS..Every other hostelmate were NRIs n they chose STCS,the CBSE stream....But i had around 7 seniors from STRS,2 of them in science stream...The commerce stream had the BHAIs...Lik the underworld villians....
The first week twas introductions and getting to know the YOU...Well thats what ragging is al about ryt..The method they adopted seemed rough to me but now i realize twas good....Too good...Its true over 6 months they ragged me...Lik anything...I must have received around 300 cherry toppings n hamburgers...Oh btw a cherry topping is getting ur nipple pinched and a hamburger is getting your shoulder muscle(trapezius) pulled...I still remember him coming n askin casually ,"hey pk,u want a cherry topping"(oh ya i was known as pk even to seniors back then,cos of that initials all over my stuff lik books,bucket etc)...They had the right to make us stand in the sun for hours...The max i stood was 15min :)...I carried water for seniors lik a million times...There was even this game where we had to climb on top of our racks n run when our seniors would try to hit us with tennis ball till we fell...I was kinda challenge for them cos i never fell till date :) n that made me climb the racks often !!! There were times when i was used as stumps when seniors played indoor cricket...And there was this crazy game,where i had to lie down with my legs spread n was used as a hole,when seniors played golf with hockey ball (if only u knew how hard a hockey ball was)....Well yes it was lot of torture to say...Around 14 of first years' dropped out from hostel....But there were some good things that came with all the torture as far as i was concerned....Respect...Yes the seniors liked me !! Not oly just to rag but they taught me lots of things,which i listened to,keeping my dad's words in mind...Respect seniors,they r there to help you...They taught me basketball,hockey,table tennis....Somebody even taught me to wash my clothes !! They took care of me when i was sick ! Its lik i had a whole bunch of brothers around me....The most prized thing that they taught me was.....ROCK MUSIC n ya sex !! The bond between us grew in hostel through the fun we'd in chapel..In the mess...In the playground...Running in the rain...Playing in the quadrangle...Even in studies n finally in school where my seniors were nothing less than my big brother....One year flew just lik that....i was in tears on the farewell day....I still remember the hug and the last hamburger my senior gave before leaving the hostel......Leaving me as a senior....To roll on the tradition......What does ragging mean to u ?
Ragging........What picture does this word bring to ur mind ?? I'm not quite sure abt what its in your mind.Is it u being ragged or you ragging ! I bet its you being ragged....Well i just thought abt the ragging that i miss...Yes u heard it right,I MISS RAGGING....
Twas the month of june 2002...I was so proudly holding my class X marks sheet with an air of dignity in front of the principal's room of st.Thomas residential school tvm,one of the best schools of my tym.The principal talked to me as if i was an average student n he was scoffing at me on all points.Though i felt bad then,i realised later that an 89.83 % was a mere average in STRS.Back in st.Mary's , from where i came, i was sort of a hero...Mine was the record mark in the 25yr school history !! And the second rank stood 53marks behind me(thats a 9%)....Huh...My world was changing....It was june 14th,2002...My first day in hostel.Its not the first time i am being away from home..I'd been to 5day camps n even a month away from home during summer hols.And i thought its going to be ok.Just one thing was different here.I dint know anyone here....
For the first time i was going to have seniors....Those ppl whom my dad had given me a lot of info on(dad being in medical college seemed to know lot abt ragging)....So twas automatically imprinted in my mind that seniors were to be respected n interestingly i used to respect them...I still don know if twas out of fear or twas passive...But i did consider them as someone important in my life.I was pretty much amused to find lot of guys lik me standing in awe before seniors.Well we had a small introduction by the hostel warden at night around 8 and then he left by 9....And then the party started.....RAGGING.....Twas a scary situation.We were asked to stand in a row n lik picking a prostitute or something,a bunch of seniors would pick one of us and would disappear...Infact what was happening went in accordance to my dads description...Well The rule was simple as far as i was concerned.....Respect seniors....
A topic was seldom required to start the party.The diversity and the creativity that they displayed amused me ! Well i was caught on the grounds of having a moustache...And i had to shave it..I dint resist thou i hated to look the 'me without moustache'.I had really tough time to meet up new friends in a completely new school,but st.Thomas gifted me some really good ppl around,ah thats a diff story....Well back in hostel,i was the only one who chose STRS..Every other hostelmate were NRIs n they chose STCS,the CBSE stream....But i had around 7 seniors from STRS,2 of them in science stream...The commerce stream had the BHAIs...Lik the underworld villians....
The first week twas introductions and getting to know the YOU...Well thats what ragging is al about ryt..The method they adopted seemed rough to me but now i realize twas good....Too good...Its true over 6 months they ragged me...Lik anything...I must have received around 300 cherry toppings n hamburgers...Oh btw a cherry topping is getting ur nipple pinched and a hamburger is getting your shoulder muscle(trapezius) pulled...I still remember him coming n askin casually ,"hey pk,u want a cherry topping"(oh ya i was known as pk even to seniors back then,cos of that initials all over my stuff lik books,bucket etc)...They had the right to make us stand in the sun for hours...The max i stood was 15min :)...I carried water for seniors lik a million times...There was even this game where we had to climb on top of our racks n run when our seniors would try to hit us with tennis ball till we fell...I was kinda challenge for them cos i never fell till date :) n that made me climb the racks often !!! There were times when i was used as stumps when seniors played indoor cricket...And there was this crazy game,where i had to lie down with my legs spread n was used as a hole,when seniors played golf with hockey ball (if only u knew how hard a hockey ball was)....Well yes it was lot of torture to say...Around 14 of first years' dropped out from hostel....But there were some good things that came with all the torture as far as i was concerned....Respect...Yes the seniors liked me !! Not oly just to rag but they taught me lots of things,which i listened to,keeping my dad's words in mind...Respect seniors,they r there to help you...They taught me basketball,hockey,table tennis....Somebody even taught me to wash my clothes !! They took care of me when i was sick ! Its lik i had a whole bunch of brothers around me....The most prized thing that they taught me was.....ROCK MUSIC n ya sex !! The bond between us grew in hostel through the fun we'd in chapel..In the mess...In the playground...Running in the rain...Playing in the quadrangle...Even in studies n finally in school where my seniors were nothing less than my big brother....One year flew just lik that....i was in tears on the farewell day....I still remember the hug and the last hamburger my senior gave before leaving the hostel......Leaving me as a senior....To roll on the tradition......

RAGGING 2 ::

Being a senior was another challenge,which i dint realize how tough twas until i was in the spot.Ragging is an art...An art passed down the traditions...But i never considered myself very good at ragging but still i was good enuf....Good enuf not to hurt the junior n not to appear too lenient....Its said that seniors adopt ragging to unleash the frustration n sort of revenge for what was done with them...N its almost true...Ragging is power...And with power comes responsibility ryt...But just as our politicians,when u get the power u just seem to be a different person unless and until u are man of set ideals and integrity...The first thing i did after being a senior and having lots of juniors was to get all the moustaches clean shaved ! U can call that vindictive.But it dint make me feel good or anything special.It was time that i searched what the meaning of ragging was n why its there in first place.I found it a good method to know juniors.Get to know who was good in what al fields...I was lucky enuf to help out some with home sickness.The UNREALZ,my colleagues in hostel were kinda good when it came to ragging.They mixed fun with terror n were quite good in controlling the rebellious ones.We enjoyed the seniorhood in style.But i don know y i had no tears when we'd our farewell in hostel....But i wept lik a baby when UNREALZ passed out....

RAGGING 3 :: Munnabhai MBBS

Year 2005.Calicut medical college
Oh i was so happy to be in a medical college finally.A dream come true....Infact i chose calicut straight away even without considering other colleges.I don know what made me do that.I hadn't even heard of the college before !! Anyways the first day is still crystal clear in my head..Since i was from kollam,a 10hr journey to calicut,we came a day before d class started.N my dad took me to hostel just to check out how twas...In front of the hostel we find machos blasting the pioneer music system in a new car...From that emerges a handsome guy with sparkling eyes and a cute smile n greets my father.They start some conversation and they even have a laugh,then my dad smiles and says,"do a little bit of ragging to him ok".....I's shocked to hear that and the seniors too shared my same expression i think.....
Next day,the first day in hostel,after the introduction classes in college,when we returned,we were greeted by hungry seniors.Now this situation was not new to me..I had been a junior once and even a senior.I never knew what a senior wanted but i did know he wanted respect.So the motto was clear "SHOW RESPECT".And at night i was picked up by the most villainous bunch of seniors,the 45th...There were three other juniors in the room along with 7 other seniors....I knew they were the most senior.And i remained humble than ever n did everything they asked for.......I even licked the ashtray !! Few minutes after which they sort of congratulated me and made me the right hand of THE BHAI....Nobody ragged me till 2...I mean till when i was with them...Then i was called upon by the just senior batch guys n they had their happy time.They were amidst some exams and the frustration and disappointment with themselves came right on us....They asked me some petty things to do and i did it with ease but dint overdo it :) they dint find any fun or what they were looking for...So they left me..I was actually feeling happy and adapted to the situation when everybody else were scared to death.And the next day there was this very funny incident..In mess,a senior asked me to drink hot tea...One thing they dint know was that i hate tea and haven had tea since i was 6 ! The glass was superhot..I took hold of it gently and as i prepared to drink,the senior said not to drink...I was so relieved !! And then he asked some other person to drink it,he replied,"this is very hot".....Bhaam....He was made to drink even the last drop !! Thats how seniors are :) After when i finished my food,i asked the senior sitting in front of me if i could get up and go(from my experience in st.Thomas) which surprised some seniors but they realized that i have been in hostel before.And thus it dint take much time for me to build rapport with the seniors.I think my some of my batchmates looked at me with envy.Anyways I was enjoying the new environment....But that lasted only three days...
There was this guy in my batch and he was from my town oly...He told his father about the cruel ragging in hostel.His dad told my dad and they decided to move us both to an outside hostel....I pleaded my dad not to do it but he refused.....And then i was lik a dayscholar....I would hear stories about ragging in hostel and i found them interesting.Well back in my private hostel there was this hyperactive guy who verbally abused seniors,ofcourse in their absence....When i saw how hypocritic he was,i thought guys lik him deserve ragging...I never had to experience much ragging after that...But you know what was most striking....All the seniors who ragged me remembered me and they smiled whenever they saw me back in college...They even took me to library,at the time when freshers entering library would be ragged lik anything...I met more seniors...They advised me to get back to hostel...I felt lik i began to'v brothers again....
After 7months i succeeded in persuading my dad to get back to hostel.And it was a good time to get back.The ramdan...There were 8 muslim guys who lik me had opted out of hostel n who returned during the month of ramdan....So the ragging had much declined and since it was holy month fewer ragging...Less did we know that seniors had noted us and planned to rag later...Luckily i knew some of the seniors and i did respect them always,unlike the muslim guys who started enjoying the freedom..And eventually they got ragged...Thats when i met the 46th batch....They were known to rag so hard...But I liked them.Twas fun to get ragged by them.They kinda followed what the golden rule of ragging was..."FUN-for the one ragging and d one getting ragged"
The year rolled on...Next year....We the seniors....Now this is the year which changed me and my outlooks lik hell...First i came to know how sick the people in calicut were.Second i saw power in wrong hands....My batchmates had only one intention while ragging....REVENGE...Avenge for what was done to them...I tried talking it out but it dint work...So i dropped the idea of ragging...Yes some of it were funny but they did the same stuff with everyone...Not that i got bored of repetition,they dint care to look the history of whom they were ragging....I don know if you could appreciate if d same question can evoke responses as different as black and white...It depends on lots of things...I could see the deterioration of the art of ragging....Twas becoming a completely bad scenario...It sucked...I felt pity for the juniors who were tasting the sour version of ragging....So i decided to shun the role of a senior and enjoy being a junior of 46th...And trust me, my life would have been hell in calicut without them...They reminded me of my st.Thomas seniors...I had lots of fun with them...They took me out when they partied,they took me to beach,movies,shopping and even taught me techniques and places to birdwatch :) and they made fun of me when i came to know that my so called girl friend was having me as a friend to satisfy her physical desires ! Actually they were disappointed they couldn point out the girl before !! Well they taught me to look at it in a funny angle,the angle of experience :) Anyways life was fun to have them around,and in postings.....I haven seen any 'good' ragging after them.I have this feeling that the art was passed from 45th to 46th but after that the anti ragging came into being.And the phase almost represented the revenge filled process...And till date its the same...The dictum-for what was done to us !!

RAGGING 4 :: The judgement day

Where did it al go wrong ! I'v no idea actually !! Mayb twas the result of the wrong use of power than its productive use,which resulted as nuclear explosion...Progressive with time...As i said before ragging is an art...And its not going to be productive unless the seniors become patient...But a medical student is supposed to have personality traits lik kindliness,honesty,patience,tolerance,perseverance,consciousness,thoroughness and initiative(from the Parks textbook of preventive and social medicine)...And i think ragging was supposed to inculcate some of these...But alas its doing the opposite now...So i think its fair enuf to ban it than give d power in the wrong hands..Yes one of the dreaded outcomes cos of the ban on ragging is that the juniors have lost the respect for seniors.Even the professors have started to say that the students' level of respect has gone down....(The etiology of drop in respect is under debate whether its due to poor standards of teaching)....Anyways ragging including cruel behavior and beating should be prohibited...But that should not leave seniors vulnerable to the whimps and fancies of juniors...The antiragging rule if implemented properly has got serious power...And again this power can be used wrongly by juniors....Just lik women who charge cases of molest on innocent people to gain something....The legalization aint proper....And as for any major society change,the change of self is the most effective and efficient way......Hope the future of ragging is good.....Well i do miss the sweet ragging just like The GreeN.....:)

wheN do i get to RomancE

I believe its almost everybody's wish to get a romantic partner for life.Its quite intriguing aspect of every single soul in the planet.Ask anyone in the world what u want in...ur would be....The answers will range from being beautiful/handsome, wise , submissive,well educated/earning or both,charming,mayb rich ,unassuming,glamorous,compassionate,muscular,adventurous , friendly...I'm pretty sure 99% dream of a caring better half !!
So i was wondering if thats what everybody needs,then everyone would finally end up with one !! Well, One day i was having dinner with my friend.Thats when a couple come n occupy the table right in front of me.Both of them were good looking...Young..no children to disturb(i say so cos i'v heard my cousin sayin so,who used to be so fond of kids)....Its rather a fact that most of the people are so interested to watch couples...I don know why they'd just give them some damn privacy..So i just dint mind them at al,thou my friend had his one whole eye just for them...
By that time the wheat paratha,which happened to be the 'in thing' appeared.As we were having our new dish with chicken pepper(which was so peppery that it burned by whole gastro system)...Amongst all this mayhem i could hear an irritating chomp chomp coming out of nowhere..I thought it'd be my dear friend n as i looked up,i was rather mystified to see the young guy eating lik a five yr old !! It made me laugh for a sec but my irritation seemed to overcome my humorsense...One minute into it,i noticed somethin different..His wife(otherwise he wont b lik this insensitive) was having a blushing smile watchin him eat n to my surprise this guy was so busy with eating,he failed to notice that and continued his munching !! Thats when i became the typical indian and started observing them !! For the next half an hour i was more interested in the couple than the wheat paratha and the pepper chicken...I was so disappointed with him and so sorry for the beautiful woman at the end of half an hour.In these few minutes he dint even look at her and was either munching his piece of leg or on the phone or even watching other couples(the typical character got thru evolution i guess)but not his wife !!
After a bit thought,i reasoned that he cant be blamed cos he might'v just got married and worrying over making that extra money or making himself secure or tired after a days work.There'd be so many thoughts running in his mind that he found it soothening to enjoy his piece of chicken ! Mayb !! Well thats when it struck my mind,when do i get a chance to romance !! I don know if the situation is same with other professions too,but then being a medical student,it takes u to 30 to be stable atleast.And by then you'd be probably having a kid or two and wont get to romance !! So when is it that i get to experience the beautiful feeling called romancing love ! Yes ofcourse its during the study life.The college life...Now here again another problem arises...Girls usually need to be married atleast by 24 but for medical guys lik us,24 is the age when we'd be still studying n wont be earning enough to stand by ourselves !! Thats the only time i feel jealous of girls...Their hormones get satisfied as they reach their peak...Isn't it not ?? I'd be happy to hear its not k :-) anyways guys lik us will get married at around 26-28 and only if we are lucky enough to find a girl 4yrs younger than us,we could do enjoy the moment.....
I mean just imagine that you are lying on a bed close to the large window in your house and your wife comes and sits next to you and gives you a cup of tea to drink and strokes ur hair..Wont you feel elated ?!? (don tell me you need a jug of beer instead !! )
So that small incident has made me think little ahead into the future.I consider myself lucky now to have observed them...Now i know i should be planning out a wonderful honeymoon again plus a holiday once in a while....Just to be in the amazing world of romance...To feel and let feel whats called love..........And the extraordinary thing in the story is that...As i finished with my thoughts on the couple and as i was about to wash after the eventful dinner,i got my mob beeping...Twas a sensational text from my princess..It read "missing u here baby"...Needless to say,we'd the best night together.........


This article is dedicated to my princess :-)

What if this happens to you.....

Imagine if this happens to you..........You and your female colleague r going in an auto...Both of u travel together home,by the volvo bus,thou usually by train...well As your auto slowly enters an illlit jailroad,a narrow but long dark road with huge walls on both sides,your colleague grabs your face in a lightening speed and locks her lips with yours !! If you haven't been kissed before,you'd know then whats it lik to be in that spot,where there are a million questions around u and at the same time you are in a bliss....Its a fight b/w your ideals n your hormones.... t What if your adventure never ends there.....You get into the big volvo A/C bus and you'v one whole night to travel after this delightful kiss with ur colleague.... As u recline n enjoy the movie being played you hear a whisper in your ears...."give me a love bite"....And when you turn to her side to ask her what she said,all you can see is a shiny fair shoulder stripped of the salwar....!!! But wait a second...What if u dint know what exactly she asked.....You ask her pardon n still you'v no clue on what she asked....What if she has to explain that a lovebite is an expression of passion..its just biting as hard as you can n leaving the bitemark.N more stronger the passion is,the more longer the mark will stay. Again you are fighting with your consciousness and your inner wish to feel a girl..... What if she asks you to give her more kisses....What if she takes your hand to her bosom and ask you to feel them.....thats when the real adrenaline rush comes and you sweat lik anything....You are equally excited and confused over what just happened.. This was the moment which turned the friendship into a physical relationship.. You are doing what you always wanted to do as a male..Feel a girl...... Now if you hear this you'd be out of your fucking mind "you can learn the anatomy now" and takes you to her private world... Your enthusiasm hits the pole and you are so eager for the explore......Taking care of satisfying your wishes and at the same time not disturbing the fellow passengers.... What if she was so happy with you that she invites you home when her working parents are away...You got to stay with her from morning 10 to evening 4,after this adventurous day..... You'd be one confident man na...Or will you repent what u just experienced...Could you'v stopped that ! Was it under your control or hers ! You decide not to dissect the incident and just pass on....What if this happens over and over....Will you get addicted ? Hopelessly addicted days pass....Months pass....One day some friend of yours describe the same incident to you...And to your shock.......The girl is the same !!

KILL THE BLOODY LONELINESS

People feel lonely for a number of reasons, such as not having enough friends, not knowing how to be close to the people you know, or simply because being lonely is part of the human condition. Here's how to cope with loneliness when it comes your way.

1. Realize that we all get lonely. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or that you have to stay lonely. We're particularly prone to loneliness when we're making transitions, especially for the better. If you're changing, such as exploring new alternatives and paths for yourself, you're bound to get a little lonely as you look for people who share your new interests and thoughts.
2. Call or get together with the people you know, even if they aren't who you want to be with right now. Human contact makes more contact easier. Talk until the feeling eases.
   
3. Get involved in anything where you will meet people. If you are very shy, find a group for social anxiety, even if it has to be online (obviously it's better if it's not). Volunteering can help.
4. Challenge yourself to take the initiative in social relationships whenever you can. YOU ask the person if they want to chat, get a coffee, whatever. Remember how much you like it when people are attracted to you.
5. Take risks about revealing yourself. Say what's on your mind, if it seems at all likely the other person will be receptive. It can hurt when it backfires, but it's worth it a million times over when it works out.
6. Remember that we are all alone inside our heads; we are born and die alone; it's nothing special. Every person who has ever lived has been lonely. Love wouldn't exist without loneliness to inspire it. Look at your loneliness with detachment.
7. Notice the difference between loneliness and solitude. Imagine this is the last day you will ever be alone. What would you do?
8. Join an online community, sometimes, it can help.
9. When feeling lonely, don't allow yourself to bask in your loneliness. Do something, anything! Take a walk, ride your bike.
10. Be happy. Live a life of optimism. Happiness comes from within regardless of your situation, so don’t use any excuses, such as being alone.
11. Do everything you would normally do with a partner or friend. Many times it isn't the partner or friend you are missing, but the activities and hobbies you shared. Take yourself out for a date. For example, if you would have gone out to dinner or to a movie on a date, then take yourself out to a movie or to a nice restaurant. Don't hold yourself back.

• Forget about the 'perfect' friend or lover. Connect with anyone who you assess to be genuine, and who is around you. Following your instincts about people can be important here. Just because someone is around/near you, doesn't mean they are good (vs. bad)company. According to me, being alone is better than being in bad company.
• Set up social activities when you're not feeling lonely. Anticipate.
• Read literature and go to museums/theater/dance. Art reaches inside.
• For those with religious beliefs, consider fellowship with those of your faith. Most churches should have some sort of regular fellowship, if your church doesn’t then consider starting one.
• Remember. Reaching out to someone else lonelier than you could give you so much more happiness than you could imagine.
• Learn to meditate so that you have the experience of being loved and nurtured emotionally by other sources than human beings.
• Consider getting a pet! Animals can make marvelous companions; they give unconditional love, and can offer you loyal company. Walking a dog can also be a great way of meeting other people!

but remember

• Loneliness is a state where cults will find you most vulnerable. Be careful and listen to what others have to say about any group you are thinking of joining.
• If you have a persistent feeling of loneliness, please seek medical help. It might be a sign of depression.
• Watch out! Becoming overly dependent on online communities as a social outlet may lead to addiction and more complications.

DiversiTy oF KissEs

Kissing is an expression of emotions whether that be friendship, love, or passion. There are so many different types of kisses to express these different emotinos and so many more different types of kisses that are just for pure fun and enjoyment.Here i am introducing you a few varities of kisses...most of them experienced n thoroughly enjoyed ones..have some knowledge and experiment it with ur sweetheart....so here we go..

My first kiss being the simple

FOREHEAD KISS : The "motherly" kiss or "just friends" kiss. The forehead kiss can be a comforting kiss to anyone. Simply brush your lips lightly across the crown of their head.

CHEEK KISS : A friendly, "I really like you" kiss. Often the preferred kissing method of a first date. With your hands on your partner's shoulders, gently brush your lips across her cheek.

CUTE KISS : For some fun, gently and quickly kiss all over their face and neck, while at the same time holding each other like you havent seen them for years. This is a way to start something fun!

EARLOBE KISS : Gently sip and suck the earlobe. Avoid louder sucking noises as ears are sensitized noise detectors.

ESKIMO KISS : With your faces less than a breath apart, gently rub your noses together.

EYELID KISS : Softly kiss your partners eyelids one at a time. This is a very erotic and arousing kiss.
FINGER KISS : While kissing, as he raises his hands to your face, take them, hold them, and slowly ease away from his mouth. Gently kiss and or suck each finger. This feels great and it is very fun to watch

FIRST KISS : A first kiss is like a wish. You move closer and closer to each other, hoping for the kiss. You're lips gently touch and you feel the rush.

FOOT KISS ; An erotic and romantic gesture. It may tickle, but relax and enjoy it! To give a toe kiss by gently suck the toes and then lightly kissing the foot. It helps to gently massage the base of the foot while performing the kiss.
ANGEL KISS : This is a sweet, comforting kiss. Gently and ever so lightly kiss your partner either on the eye lid or right next to the eyes.


BUTTERFLY KISS : With your faces less than a breath away, open and close your eyelids against your partners. If done correctly, the fluttering sensation will match the one in your heart.

BELLY BUTTON LICK : Get a yummy cream or drink (whipped cream, etc) and fill your girlfriend/boyfriends belly button with it and lick it out.(dairy milk is on good option)

BAMBI KISS : A light lick on the side of the face.

ALL OVER KISS : Grab your partner gently, then begin kissing the forehead, moving down to the nose. Tenderly, with an aggressive feeling, give your partner your best kiss right on the lips. Next, move your way down and continue with your own imagination.

COLLARBONE KISS : Begin kissing your partner's neck, all the way up by the ear, then slowly work your way down their neck to their collarbone. This is very sensual and arousing.

THE ULTIMATE FRENCH KISS : : The kiss involving the tongue. Some call this the "Soul Kiss" because the life and soul are thought to pass through the mouth's breath in the exchange across tongues

ICE CUBE KISS : Place an ice cube in your partners belly button, telling them that if they move and it falls out, you will stop kissing them. When the ice cube melts, you can use the cold water all over to make for an awesome sensation.

LOUBIE SMOOCH : Roll your partner over and kiss one of their bum cheeks then give it a little playful bite. Guaranteed to surprise your partner!


NECK KISS : Come up behind the person you want to kiss. Lightly lick the back of their neck, then kiss the back of their neck a few times.

NOSE KISS : Lean forward slowly to their face and softly kiss your partner's nose. This is a good way to get your partner's attention and it always makes them smile!



SLOW KISSING : French kiss your partner 10x slower than you normally would. For instance, kiss for 30 minutes or so. Try this with any kiss listed here, just take it very s-l-o-w-l-y.
STOMACH KISS : Gently kiss and nibble on your partners stomach, and sometimes it leads to other things.

SWEET KISS : Take piece of your favorite candy, put it in your mouth and kiss your partner. Exchange the candy from mouth to mouth, until the candy melts. Feel free to keep on kissing after the candy is long gone![again dairy milk ]

TONGUE TEASE : While french kissing, try moving your tongue on his teeth, then stick it in and out of his mouth. Be sure to move slowly as it will really excite him.

UPSIDE DOWN KISS : You stand behind your partner (who is seated or laying down) and have them tilt their head back. Then kiss them so that you nibble their lower lip and they nibble yours. This is fun and feels good because you can feel them breathing on your neck as you kiss.[this is really erotic ]

VIRTUAL KISS : For Internet lovers. Send an e-card or a kiss via email with this symbol: :-* .for mobile users too

WAISTLINE KISS : Kiss your partner softly, just slightly below and adjacent to the belly button. This will drive pretty much any woman wild.

now these are some of the diverse kisses i know...if u have any pls do suggest,i'll add them...have knowledge and be better in expressing ur love ...all the best

Let's Begin With The Simple Smile

How can you smile when you feel like you can’t smile? Whether you are feeling too blue to look happy, or truly cannot smile due to a physical problem, you can still show others your glowing personality. Communicate your smile a different way so that no matter who you are interacting with they know how happy you feel.

Force that smile on your face, no matter how negative a mood you are in. Even if you hate the guts of the person you are looking at, try to look pleasant. You don’t have to show teeth in a Cheshire cat grin. A simple smile will do.

Even if you physically cannot smile due to an injury, birth defect, or mouth guard, you can still project a smile through body language - stand up straight, hold your head up, don't frown, and smile with your eyes.

Wear clothes that smile. Add to your positive body language the color of happiness. Yellow is the color for dependability. A soft yellow is non-threatening and friendly. Warm colors are welcoming if from the yellow family. Golds, browns, golden-oranges, are all dependable colors of friendship. Blues are passive and calm colors. In the visual language, soft blues project a serenity and quiet peacefulness. Avoid reds that are too aggressive and threatening.

Learn the art of communication through other gestures. Every color, shape, and form has a psychological meaning that speaks to everyone and every creature on an unconscious level. Learn the meanings of subliminal communication, and you can smile without even moving a lip.

When you smile, others will smile back. The more people smile back at you, the more you will want to smile. Before long, you'll realize you are no longer faking that smile.
Sometimes you need to start the ball rolling to change the mood from sad to happy. A simple smile can change a lot!

Think of something happy. Focus on it until whatever is bothering you is in the background. This will help maintain your smile until it becomes a genuine expression.

Clean yourself up, brush your hair, put on something good without holes or stains. A positive self image can be jumpstarted with a fresh look. A smile is sure to follow.

Try not to focus on the problem that's making it hard for you to smile.

Does Handwriting say secRET abT u ! !

``If letters slant to the left: Indicates introspection and a lot of emotional control.
``If letter slant to the right: Reveals a person who's outgoing, friendly, impulsive, and emotionally open.
``If letters are straight up and down: The sign of someone who's ruled by the head, not the heart.
``Letters that slant in more than one direction: Indicates versatility and adaptability.
``An erratic slant: Usually means a lack of flexibility.
``Heavy pressure writing (like you can feel the rib made on the back of the paper): The writer is agitated.
``Moderate pressure (the writing is dark, but you can't feel the rib on the other side of the paper): Shows ability to deal with stress.
``Light pressure: Indicates someone who seems to take life in stride.
``Tiny letters: Indicate the writer is has somewhat low self esteem but is intelligent.
``Small letters: The hallmark of quiet, introspective types - they're generally detail-oriented and have good concentration.
``Large letters: Sign of a confident, easygoing individual.
``Huge letters: Indicate someone who's theatrical, usually loud, and needs to be the center of attention at all times.
``Wide letters (their width and height are about the same): The mark of someone who's open and friendly.
``Narrow letters: Show someone who's somewhat shy and inhibited but very self-disciplined.
``Letters that don't touch: Indicate an impulsive, artistic, sometimes impractical free thinker.
``Some letters connecting: Means the writer's personality blends logic and intuition.
``All letters making contact: The sign of someone who's highly cautious.
``A curved first mark: Shows a person who's traditional and plays by the rules.
``A straight beginning stroke: Reveals someone who's rigid and doesn't like being told what to do.
``A final stroke straight across: The writer is cautious.
``An end mark that curves up: Reveals generosity.
``Perfect penmanship: The hallmark of a communicative person.
``An indecipherable scrawl: Indicates a person who's secretive

tiruvananthapuram dickshionary

Thiruvanthoram dishanary - thalley ... idivettu ... Note :: These words are used only in remote areas so do use it carefully
A Adi : Sporty _Expression
Adii Sekkkae : Expressive Comment for a Beautiful Gal
Aiyyam : Not Good
Akkan : Elder Sister
Alambu Payalu : Mischievous Guy
Alavalaathi : Useless
Alimpu, Alumpu : Mess Up
Aliyan : Buddy
Alli : Pidichu
Ammachiyaane : Mother Promise
Annaakki Thannu : Cheated
Annack Vare : Deep in Throat
Annan Konni : Real Useless
Appi : Small Baby
Arumbaatham : Finish, Samadhaanam
Azhukka : Bad
B
Baiju : Old Man
Balraaram : Balaramapuram (Place Name)
Bonji Vellam : Lime Juice
Borotta : Porotta
Braal : Cat Fish
C
Chaala : Maththi (Fish Name)
Charakakukalu : Beautiful Gals
Cheelu : Silly
Chella : Dear, A Nice Boy or a Girl
Chemala/Chevala : Red
Cherayuka : Staring
Cheythu Kidathukka : Revenge Completed
Chorri : Irritating
Chwaaru : Rice
Chwara : Blood
D
Daavu : Pretending
Dappi : Small Pot
De Pode Pode : Go Away
E
Entheru : What
Entoodi : With Me, To Me
F
Faagyam : Luck
Faaratham : India
Faarya : Wife
G
Ganja Payalu : Sleepy Guy
Gavanam : Be Concerned
H
I
Idichu Pirithu : Strong Punch
Illoolam : In Small Quantity
Inippu : Sweet
Ithippooram : Little
J
Jaada : Self-Importance
K
Kaa Parakki : Lazy Guy
Kadassi, Kadaseelu : Last, The End
Kailanchi : Knife
Kalippu : Riot
Kanji : Weird
Kannamthiruvukalu : Mischief
Karuvaadu : Dried Fish
Kinnam : Fantastic, Small Plate
Konjayadi : Making Fun
Koora : Waste
Koothara : Bad
Koothara Payalu : Ugly Boy
Kundaankadavu : Kundamon Kadavu (Place Name)
Kundani : Mischievous
Kuzhithurumbu : Cunny
L
Levan : He
Londe Lavide : Its Over There
M
Maakri : Frog
Machaa : Dear Friend
Madakku : Meals Parcel
Manja pranthu : Mad
Masha : Prostitute
Mini Mol : Old Lady
Moda : Self-Importance
Moonchi : Face, Fooled
Mudukku : Narrow Road (Path), Lane
Muttan : Gigantic
N
Niroovichu : Thought
Njerippu : Awesome
Noorey : Straight
O
Odakku : To Quarrel, Block
Orakkam : Sleep
Oyfe : Wife
Oyyirae : On Top
P
Paazhu : Useless, Waste
Pallu Vili : Scolding Using Ugly Words
Panna : Bad
Payalukal : Boys
Payya Thanna : Never : Slowly
Pazham : Fool, Banana
Pele : Police
Pesha : Lungi
Peyyaa : Whether Gone?
Peyyoodaam : Lets Go
Polappu : Amazing
Pukilukalu : Problems
Pushpan : Gay
Puttu : Lies
QRS
Swalpam : Little
T
Thalleay : Expressing Surprise, My God
Thallu : To Give, To boast
Thammassikkoola : Won't Allow
Thoottal : Diarrhea
Thorappa : Broom
Thirontharam : Thiruvananthapuram (Place Name)
Thwana : Lots Of
Thyaeri : Uphill
U
Ullasangalu : Happiness
Umba : Cow
V
Valichuu : Cheated
Valipeeru : Cheating
Varuthan : Outsider
Vedi : Prostitute
Vellangalu : Water
Vesarppu : Sweat
Vetti Veethi : Slaughter to Death
Vyali : Veli
W
Woa ..Woa : Ok, Done
X Y
Yaaku : Puke (Mostly related to pregnancy time)
Yelavu : Weird
Yemandan : Big
Yetthu Vaali Payalu : Parasite in Nature, a person doesn't have much importance
Z